Ahhhh...the terrible and terrific twos

Audrey is smart. She's my kid, so maybe I am the only one that thinks so, and right now that is the only person( and her dad) that matters.
But, she is also a smarty pants, lately. UGH!
I feel like our days are filled with alot of temper tantrums and crying and flinging of her body, and kicking and running away.
She doesnt like the outfit I put on, it "hurts" her. She doesnt want to read the story I chose. She wants me to "go away". She doesnt want to go inside. She doesnt want her shoes on. She doesnt want to listen to ANYONE. And I am maybe losing my mind.
I am seriously reevaluating what I have done to get us here. Is it me? I am happy to take the blame and help to change it.
We have left gymnastics early because she just doesnt want to sit down and listen. I also think that has to do with the maniac child in her class who appears, leaves the kids in her wreckage and my "monkey see-monkey do" follows her lead. But, maybe it is just Audrey.
If anyone has any advice or a book to read or reassurance, I am here and open.
Until then, we are living with a crazy beautiful smart tantrummer( is that a word...spell check says no...I say YES)!